Join Kim, Marquia, and Ednesha as they explore the importance of choosing oneself, particularly for Black women who often prioritize the needs of others. They discuss cultural conditioning that leads to self-sacrifice, the consequences of neglecting personal well-being, and the necessity of self-love and preservation. They emphasize the need for Black women to reclaim their time and energy, advocating for a shift in mindset that prioritizes individual needs alongside community responsibilities. The hosts also explore the themes of self-sacrifice, the importance of self-care, and the hard lessons learned when choosing oneself. Keywords: healing, self-care, mental health, Black women, self-love, cultural conditioning, personal growth, emotional well-being, self-preservation, community support, self-care, mental health, relationships, personal growth, education, boundaries, emotional labor, self-reflection, toxic relationships, empowerment Takeaways Choosing yourself is essential for your well-being. Black women often feel overwhelmed and exhausted from self-sacrifice. Cultural conditioning teaches us to prioritize others over ourselves. Self-love and self-preservation are not selfish acts. Many Black women are conditioned to be caretakers from a young age. The strong Black woman trope can be detrimental to mental health. It's important to articulate gratitude and reflect on personal growth. Consequences of not choosing oneself can lead to depression and anxiety. Finding your voice in family dynamics is crucial for self-care. Reclaiming time and energy is a radical act of self-love. Sacrificing oneself for others can lead to emotional and mental health issues. Choosing yourself is essential for personal growth and well-being. Setting boundaries is crucial in maintaining healthy relationships. Self-reflection helps in understanding personal needs and desires. It's important to recognize toxic patterns in relationships. People may react negatively when you prioritize yourself. Time lost in unhealthy relationships cannot be regained. Grace and compassion towards oneself are necessary during the healing process. Listening to your body is key to self-care. Creating a support system can aid in making difficult choices.