#298: Are you tired of feeling like a doormat in your relationships? But are you also scared of being perceived as a jerk if you stop people-pleasing and start setting boundaries? What’s the secret to being loving and supportive without abandoning yourself in the process? This week, I dive deep into the difference between being considerate and codependent. You'll learn how to recognize when you're engaging in emotional outsourcing, how to start setting boundaries that protect your energy and well-being, and how you can show up for others from a place of genuine care instead of obligation or fear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/298

#297: Have you heard of the "nervous system reset"? It's a popular idea these days, but is it really possible to erase the impact of trauma with the push of an imaginary button? In this episode, I dive deep into the science of trauma and the nervous system to explain why the notion of a reset is not only inaccurate, but potentially harmful. I explore what trauma really is, how it shapes our nervous system, and what true healing involves. (Spoiler alert: it's not about eliminating our experiences, but integrating them.) Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/297

#296: Are you ready to radically change your life through self-love and healing? In this week's episode, Ali Zamora shares her transformative journey of overcoming codependency and depression by trusting her intuition and embracing embodiment practices.    Ali discusses how the foundational tools she learned in my Anchored program equipped her to navigate the layers of healing and step into her most authentic self. If you've been struggling with emotional outsourcing, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, this episode will inspire you to start questioning everything and create the life you truly desire.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/296

#296: Are you ready to radically change your life through self-love and healing? In this week's episode, Ali Zamora shares her transformative journey of overcoming codependency and depression by trusting her intuition and embracing embodiment practices. Ali discusses how the foundational tools she learned in my Anchored program equipped her to navigate the layers of healing and step into her most authentic self. If you've been struggling with emotional outsourcing, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, this episode will inspire you to start questioning everything and create the life you truly desire.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/296

#295: Have you ever wondered what the differences between an ultimatum and a boundary are, and which might be the better choice? What do you do when you’re having a challenging conversation with someone and they go quiet, leaving you feeling freaked out and anxious? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, I offer my answers to these questions and show you how to regulate your nervous system from a place of compassion and curiosity while holding space for those you love.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/295

Are you done doing too much for everyone else (then resenting them), and putting yourself last? It’s time to step into a life where you’re no longer overriding your needs, on the verge of burnout, and feeling completely disconnected from your own self. If you’re ready to start building relationships with more authenticity and less one sided overfunctioning (even if that means some relationships aren’t ready to evolve with you)… join me on Tuesday, October 15th at 8pm ET for a free all new webinar called Stop Overfunctioning! Register today: https://victoriaalbina.com/stop-overfunctioning/

#294: I am so thrilled to be joined this week by my Anchored alum Hedy, a full-time job-haver, a full-time mom, and a dog mom. After joining Anchored, she describes the growth she has seen in her life since as profound. Hedy took a chance on herself, said yes, and learning how her life has changed on the other side of Anchored is the medicine we all need right now.   Tune in today to hear Hedy’s story of letting go of control, perfectionism, and codependency in a community that met her where she was, so she could change where she was. Hedy shares how she improved the way she shows up in relationship with others, learned to live in her body, and she vulnerably dives into using the lessons she learned in Anchored long after she left. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/294

#293: Do you find yourself constantly accommodating others at the expense of your own needs and desires? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, we explore the profound shift from bracing tolerance to intentional tolerance in the healing journey out of emotional outsourcing. Tune in to discover how you can cultivate a grounded presence and emotional resilience, so you can thrive in life without losing yourself in the process. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/293

#292: Most people think that if they’ve been living at one extreme of always saying yes, they need to swing to the other extreme of always saying no and become wildly independent. But that’s no way to be in a loving, caring relationship. The magic lies somewhere in the middle, and it starts by making the choice to no longer self-abandon, which takes a whole lot of self-love.    Join me this week to learn my roadmap for breaking free from the self-abandonment cycle and embracing a life of greater interdependence. You’ll hear how to use somatics and thought work to manage difficult emotions, the importance of setting boundaries, and concrete tools for interrupting this cycle so you can reclaim your authentic sense of self.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/292

#291: Many of us have received messages from society that our authentic, most real, and embodied selves are simply not okay. What’s logical is for us to step away from being that person out in the world. In this episode, I dive deep into the self-abandonment cycle that many of us find ourselves trapped in.   Join me this week to learn why you might be stuck in a self-abandonment cycle, and the somatic impact of over-functioning in your life. You’ll hear how our childhood experiences shape our adult behaviors, how the self-abandonment cycle manifests, and questions that will help you begin to recognize it in your own life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/291

#290: Mary is a high school teacher with a passion for mind-body science who joined my program, Anchored, looking for a greater sense of ease and confidence, especially as she contemplated a big career transition. This week, Mary is sharing how the inner work she did in Anchored is helping her navigate uncertainty with grace and dream bigger for her life and career.    Tune in to hear how our work together has impacted Mary's family system, what it’s really like to be coached in a group, and the transformations Mary is continuing to experience as an alum.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/290

Why does it feel so cozy to think in extremes? All-or-nothing thinking limits the possibilities available to us and is a habit we can fall into without ever realizing it. That’s why this week, I challenge you to step out of your own unintentional thinking and start seeing the glorious, grey middle ground that will help you create a life you love.   Join me this week to learn why you might be spinning in all-or-nothing thinking and how to break free. I show you what happens when you buy into all-or-nothing thinking, why it both fuels and is fueled by emotional outsourcing tendencies, and practical remedies that will help you take a more nuanced approach to life   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/289  

#288: We can’t heal hurt with more hurt, so when life feels way too life-y and you’re spiraling in your shame stories, this is the tool you can lean on to introduce a little gray into those negative thoughts.   Join me on this episode to hear what my GRACE protocol entails, and how it will shift you out of the story that says shame is who you are, into an identity where shame has just been a part of your history. I show you how to systematically recognize and shift out of the shame identity, so you can foster a healthier, more resilient self-concept.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/288

#287: Understanding how shame embeds itself in our emotional outsourcing tendencies is super important if we are to shake free of it and step into interdependence. That's why this week I'm exploring how shame takes root in our formative years and becomes intertwined with our sense of self-worth and identity.   Join me as I outline the complex and often hidden nature of shame, and how it can drive codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing behaviors. You’ll learn the somatic and psychological manifestations of shame, the role of the nervous system in responding to shame, and the importance of cultivating a more supportive relationship with yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/287

#286: One of the biggest themes we talk about on Feminist Wellness is living an intentional life where you’re tuned into what’s happening in your body, mind, spirit, and world. The vital next layer to this is slowing down enough to pay attention to the minutia of your life, and that includes your genes.   Dr. Tyler Panzner is a Ph.D. scientist turned holistic genetic health coach. Join us this week as Dr. Panzner walks us through the role our genetics play in our emotional, physical, and mental wellness. We explore what Holistic Genetic Health Optimization entails, his insights on supplements, and how Dr. Panzner can help you feel less "blah" each day of your important life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/286

My tender ravioli! It’s my birthday!!  We are celebrating Leo Season on the Feminist Wellness Podcast and we’re doing a giveaway to mark the occasion! Help other folks find this free resource by leaving a rating and review!  In turn—and because Leo's love giving gifts—I would like to thank you for taking the time! All you have to do to receive your free (can't get this any other way) sleep meditation— is leave a rating & review! Then take a little screenshot and email it to us at support@victoriaalbina.com. Need help with the steps to leave a review? Head to victoriaalbina.com/birthday! Happy Leo Season!     

#285: Does life feel like a series of urgent problems that must be solved immediately? When stress, chaos, worry, and drama are your norm, it feels cozy to stay in this place. But the truth is staying in this belief only creates more stress and drama in your life.    Tune in this week to learn why you might be in the habit of creating problems in your mind where there aren’t any, and how the work of self-trust is in learning to rewrite this experience. Discover my favorite reframe tool for gaining perspective on your perceived problems, and what happens when you break the habit of catastrophizing.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/285    

#284: When we say we hate and avoid conflict, what we really mean is that we fear direct and honest conversations. If having what could be a loving disagreement feels like a pit of despair in your body, you’re not alone, and I’m sharing my favorite remedies with you this week.   Discover how emotional outsourcing habits can make conflict aversion worse, and eight ways you might be unknowingly causing stress in your relationships. You’ll learn the root cause behind conflict aversion, why you conflate self-advocating with conflict, and how showing yourself compassion can steer you in a new direction.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/284  

#283: Does becoming someone with a secure attachment style seem like a pipe dream? What if I told you that it’s totally feasible? This week, I’m joined by a leading expert in attachment theory, Thais Gibson, who is sharing the five major components that will help you recondition your attachment style.   Learn where our attachment style comes from, how to get into a space of healing your subconscious programming, and the science behind reenactment cycles in your relationships. You'll hear Thais’ favorite three-step tool for beginning to heal your old core wounds, and so much more.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/283

#282: The rescuer mentality is a fascinating byproduct of codependency. It’s a habit many of us learned in childhood. For some of us, rescuing was a smart way to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe, but the truly loving choice in our relationships is to foster an interdependent way of living.    Tune in this week to learn why we fall into the rescue trap and how recognizing this tendency is key to healing emotional outsourcing habits. We’ll explore the critical differences between rescuing and supporting, practical tools that will help you shed the rescuer role, and how supporting others fosters interdependence.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/282